How to appreciate what you have? Please help me?
Life isnt going your way, but your best friend's life is perfect? How do you cope with this, and become happy? Ive been having ALOT of family issues(mom cant walk well)specificly health issues. My dad is the only one who makes money.. im the youngest in my family (16). My sister(20) just went back to college) and im the only healthy one in the family.and the only one that doesnt have a type diabetes.my family and i have been so unfortunete for the last almost 9 years. financialy and stuff like that. My best friend usualy gets what he wants. He got a 600 doller bed, thats better then some adults. He randomly gets a 200 dollar laptop. He gets to go to spain, or italy, or any other amazing country. While, ive never ever been out of the country. He JUST. got a credit card, because his parents are tired of giving him cash every weekend. he can only use it, with permision. but still. ITS A CREDIT CARD!. He is about to get his liscences in 4 weeks. Even though im 7 months older then him. were both 16. Reason why i dont have one by now. is cause of my parents, wont let me drive. cause of grades. The only issue, hes had in the family, is his mom with cancer. Which is big. I know this will sound mean, but cancer is very common and treatable, but what my mom has is just as bad as cancer. its SPS. Having cancer, means u can still have a job and live a normal life. Having SPS. U dont live a normal life. And u treatments Alot more often.(its an auto immune disease, and its rare as hell) its not as bad as ms. They have tons of money to burn. and they buy everything online. they got everything, I want my family to have. cash, nice cars, a nice house, they dont have to worry about money. and there happy most of the time. My question is. How do I keep myself from getting to upset about this? Im not mad or anything right now. Im totally happy right now :) but I get ticked off, everytime I herd him about his driving. Ive only driven for 2 hours. since august. while, hes all done with test. and about to get liscense. And im always jealous, seeing a 50 inch tv, with fancy verizon fios( i have basic cable)no hd tv. I know this might sound riddiculus. but where I live. (Arlington Virginia) its really hard to be thankfull for what you have. because there are so many kids, my age, that have ALOT of nice things. i mean look up arlington. Were close to the top of the list, on being rich. I want to be happy with what I have. the only thing, i got, that he doesnt have. is a gf. What are some ways, for me to cope with my jealously? What can I do. to make myself happier, and more thankful for what I have? I do help out with the homeless already.
Other - Family & Relationships - 9 Answers
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Answer 1 :
be yourself. be honest that's all.
Answer 2 :
Take some things that are important to you and let someone have them for a week or if you have a cell phone go without it for a month. You will see how to appreciate things these ways
Answer 3 :
I know it sucks being less fortunate than those around you. I did not get my license until I was 20 years old, and even though my parents had money to take care of the bills, it was not as though they had money to burn on laptops and fancy trips. Not everybody has that. You know what makes me realize and appreciate what I have now that I am an adult? I do not drive a BMW, but I have a car. I do not make six figures a year, but, I have a job (which in this economy is better than a lot of people.) I have a medical problem, but, I have access to the medical care that I need. There are so many people that do not have money to even take care of their bills or their rent, who do not have medical coverage to see the doctor, there are people in this world who lose their family and grow up with absolutely nothing. I was fortunate enough to have parents, to have a place to sleep and live, no drug/sexual/emotional/physical abuse in my home, etc. Who knows, maybe when he gets older, he will not appreciate the things he has in his life (as many who just has things handed to them don't) whereas you can appreciate the value of money, and respect the things you have that you worked hard for. It is okay to be jealous, as it is a human emotion. Just remember the little things in life that really are not that bad :)
Answer 4 :
Jealously is always going to be there..Stop comparing yourself to anyone if you always do this you woill never stop and your entire life you will feel this way. Find ways to make it better. Help your mom with what she needs your 16 find a job to start makign your own money you can buy what u want. While your dad is getting money for your family and saving what could be going to you then you guys can gain money faster. Or you can add your money and you guys will gain money faster. Calm down on what you ask for, use coupns or cut back on what you do buy. Driving-- Pull your grades up it will be hard work but it will pay off. you will be able to drive and it wil be one less thing to worry about. Plus our family will be proud which leaves you happy and unstressed. Your girlfriend you guys need to see eachother more because if thats what makes you happy you should spend more time. Dont do things that cost money go places to spend time not money. Tell your friend that you understand how happy he is but ask him if he canhelp you do your school work so you can be able to get your license too. Life is unfair it just depends on how you take it. Dont let jealousy get to you your a teen and you have mnay yeas to come you dont wanna feel like this forever so dont let it get to you. let me no if you have any more questions
Answer 5 :
wow, youve been through alot. jsut because they seem happy doesnt mean they are. and money does not equal happiness. you have a very loving and caring family. family is really all you need to be happy. i dont know if this makes sense but your friends parents could be neglecting him or maybe they dont have enough time for him, etc. family is all that mattters.
Answer 6 :
I want to call u a ungrateful little brat. I had to read ur story twice to try and c where u coming from. At 16 i no u don't understand this. I'm about to come at u hard, hate to do but it may help u understand some things. First all families have some kind of issue going on. U don't no everything that takes place behind a closed door. Get it out ur head that material things means happiness. The love ur family, self respect and respect for others is more important. I myself grew up poor with both parents in the home. The best time of my life. I"m now married with kids. I am always talking about my childhood with my kids and they ask, Why do u always talk about ur childhood, and i tell them, besides having u that was the best time of my life. I always had a roof over my head, a place to sleep and food in my stomach. My parents, myself and my sister played board games, listened to music while singing and dancing. Me and my sister would put on show for our parents. We walked to the neighborhood park and bring snacks. That is the love I remember and will cherish forever. As u get older u will learn what's importand in lift. No matter how bad things r for u they could be worst. Remember that. Material things come and go, the love of family and good friends last forever. Think about it. Good luck And good luck to u
Answer 7 :
Never compare yourself to someone else. The way I do it is i think. I had a place to sleep which many people don't. I had food to eat which many people don't have. I had a parent that was loving and caring. There are also things i wish i could change in my life. for example i wish i could have grown up with both a mother and a father, but I was not so lucky. But then i think there are people with neither a mother or a father and i count myself lucky.
Answer 8 :
Seriously? do you really have to ask that question? Appreciation isn't a technique to learn... Go back and re-think what you said? Think of consequences or sacrifices people make for you. If you CAN'T appreciate then you DON'T appreciate... simple as that.
Answer 9 :
Be happy you got the air in your lungs and your health. I'm pretty sure just because he has everything doesn't mean he's always happy. Be thankful for what you have right now. Because all that can be gone and you can be left with nothing. It's not always easy when you know your struggling and other people are enjoying life. Don't be so hard on yourself. Breathe and relax. Hope i helped
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Monday, May 28, 2012
Monday, May 21, 2012
Life isnt going your way, but your best friend's life is perfect? How do you cope with this, and become happy
Life isnt going your way, but your best friend's life is perfect? How do you cope with this, and become happy?
Ive been having ALOT of family issues(mom cant walk well)specificly health issues. My dad is the only one who makes money.. im the youngest in my family (16). My sister(20) just went back to college) and im the only healthy one in the family.and the only one that doesnt have a type diabetes.my family and i have been so unfortunete for the last almost 9 years. financialy and stuff like that. My best friend usualy gets what he wants. He got a 600 doller bed, thats better then some adults. He randomly gets a 200 dollar laptop. He gets to go to spain, or italy, or any other amazing country. While, ive never ever been out of the country. He JUST. got a credit card, because his parents are tired of giving him cash every weekend. he can only use it, with permision. but still. ITS A CREDIT CARD!. He is about to get his liscences in 4 weeks. Even though im 7 months older then him. were both 16. Reason why i dont have one by now. is cause of my parents, wont let me drive. cause of grades. The only issue, hes had in the family, is his mom with cancer. Which is big. I know this will sound mean, but cancer is very common and treatable, but what my mom has is just as bad as cancer. its SPS. They have tons of money to burn. and they buy everything online. they got everything, I want my family to have. cash, nice cars, a nice house, they dont have to worry about money. and there happy most of the time. My question is. How do I keep myself from getting to upset about this? Im not mad or anything right now. Im totally happy right now :) but I get ticked off, everytime I herd him about his driving. Ive only driven for 2 hours. since august. while, hes all done with test. and about to get liscense. And im always jealous, seeing a 50 inch tv, with fancy verizon fios( i have basic cable)no hd tv. I know this might sound riddiculus. but where I live. (Arlington Virginia) its really hard to be thankfull for what you have. because there are so many kids, my age, that have ALOT of nice things. i mean look up arlington. Were close to the top of the list, on being rich. I want to be happy with what I have. the only thing, i got, that he doesnt have. is a gf. What are some ways, for me to cope with my jealously? What can I do. to make myself happier, and more thankful for what I have? I do help out with the homeless already.
Other - Society & Culture - 2 Answers
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Answer 1 :
If you and your friend are best friends then this jealousy factor should factor should not come in your mind. Just try to be happy in your friend's happiness.
Answer 2 :
Well I can't say I grew up quiet as unfortunate as you but I never got the coolest stuff when I was your age and I too had what I would call spoiled friends that just seemed to get everything they wanted. This is what I think 1. Step back and look at where your at. There is always someone less fortunate, think about it. There are some kids that have divorced parents or don't even know there parents. Step even further back. There are some places in the world where people die of starvation, diseases, and god knows what else. Your fortunate to be born here. I know its something you may have herd before but really its true, when it comes down to it, you could have easily been put anywhere. 2. Look at what you really have. your friends and family. Everything else is just "things". I am sure your parents love you and you love them. If you disagree now it is likely you will realize it down the road. I hated my parents when I was your age. They wouldn't let me do anything it seemed. But everything they did I realize now was there method of teaching me discipline which sounds like crap now but your nearing an age where everything changes. Have fun with what you have right now. Enjoy going to school, hanging out with friends, spending time with your gf, helping the homeless, doing what you do because your going to miss some of those things in the coming years. 3. Your almost old enough to drive and get a job. It may take a while to get your parents to let you drive but it will happen. Trust me it will. Just try harder in school and keep nagging a little. I mean theres nothing else you can do. 4. Your learning something by not having all those nice things. Your going to have to go out and get those things you want, your not going to have things handed to you, and that is the real world for mostly everyone. There is no better satisfaction of being able to say I have this because I earned it. Same thing with the car. Its all part of a lesson. You want something, earn it. Which gives you an advantage in the long run. You will see. Don't be jealous or hate your friend, different lives, different strokes
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Ive been having ALOT of family issues(mom cant walk well)specificly health issues. My dad is the only one who makes money.. im the youngest in my family (16). My sister(20) just went back to college) and im the only healthy one in the family.and the only one that doesnt have a type diabetes.my family and i have been so unfortunete for the last almost 9 years. financialy and stuff like that. My best friend usualy gets what he wants. He got a 600 doller bed, thats better then some adults. He randomly gets a 200 dollar laptop. He gets to go to spain, or italy, or any other amazing country. While, ive never ever been out of the country. He JUST. got a credit card, because his parents are tired of giving him cash every weekend. he can only use it, with permision. but still. ITS A CREDIT CARD!. He is about to get his liscences in 4 weeks. Even though im 7 months older then him. were both 16. Reason why i dont have one by now. is cause of my parents, wont let me drive. cause of grades. The only issue, hes had in the family, is his mom with cancer. Which is big. I know this will sound mean, but cancer is very common and treatable, but what my mom has is just as bad as cancer. its SPS. They have tons of money to burn. and they buy everything online. they got everything, I want my family to have. cash, nice cars, a nice house, they dont have to worry about money. and there happy most of the time. My question is. How do I keep myself from getting to upset about this? Im not mad or anything right now. Im totally happy right now :) but I get ticked off, everytime I herd him about his driving. Ive only driven for 2 hours. since august. while, hes all done with test. and about to get liscense. And im always jealous, seeing a 50 inch tv, with fancy verizon fios( i have basic cable)no hd tv. I know this might sound riddiculus. but where I live. (Arlington Virginia) its really hard to be thankfull for what you have. because there are so many kids, my age, that have ALOT of nice things. i mean look up arlington. Were close to the top of the list, on being rich. I want to be happy with what I have. the only thing, i got, that he doesnt have. is a gf. What are some ways, for me to cope with my jealously? What can I do. to make myself happier, and more thankful for what I have? I do help out with the homeless already.
Other - Society & Culture - 2 Answers
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Answer 1 :
If you and your friend are best friends then this jealousy factor should factor should not come in your mind. Just try to be happy in your friend's happiness.
Answer 2 :
Well I can't say I grew up quiet as unfortunate as you but I never got the coolest stuff when I was your age and I too had what I would call spoiled friends that just seemed to get everything they wanted. This is what I think 1. Step back and look at where your at. There is always someone less fortunate, think about it. There are some kids that have divorced parents or don't even know there parents. Step even further back. There are some places in the world where people die of starvation, diseases, and god knows what else. Your fortunate to be born here. I know its something you may have herd before but really its true, when it comes down to it, you could have easily been put anywhere. 2. Look at what you really have. your friends and family. Everything else is just "things". I am sure your parents love you and you love them. If you disagree now it is likely you will realize it down the road. I hated my parents when I was your age. They wouldn't let me do anything it seemed. But everything they did I realize now was there method of teaching me discipline which sounds like crap now but your nearing an age where everything changes. Have fun with what you have right now. Enjoy going to school, hanging out with friends, spending time with your gf, helping the homeless, doing what you do because your going to miss some of those things in the coming years. 3. Your almost old enough to drive and get a job. It may take a while to get your parents to let you drive but it will happen. Trust me it will. Just try harder in school and keep nagging a little. I mean theres nothing else you can do. 4. Your learning something by not having all those nice things. Your going to have to go out and get those things you want, your not going to have things handed to you, and that is the real world for mostly everyone. There is no better satisfaction of being able to say I have this because I earned it. Same thing with the car. Its all part of a lesson. You want something, earn it. Which gives you an advantage in the long run. You will see. Don't be jealous or hate your friend, different lives, different strokes
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Monday, May 14, 2012
Poll! Please take part
Poll! Please take part.?
1) Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi? 2) Oasis or Coldplay? 3) Lemonade or Coke? 4) The Sun newspaper or The Telegraph newspaper? 5) EastEnders or Coronation Street? 6) To visit - Italy or Spain? 7) Your mobile phone or your laptop/computer? 8) Prawn Cocktail flavour crisps or Cheese and Onion flavour crisps? 9) Bebo or Facebook? 10) Kiss or hug?
Polls & Surveys - 5 Answers
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Answer 1 :
none coldplay lemon second none spain laptop first none hug
Answer 2 :
1) Who and who? 2) Coldplay 3) Lemonade 4) Neither, I live in Australia 5) Ditto 6) Italy 7) I don't have either 8) Cheese and Onion 9) What? 10) Hugs are safer.
Answer 3 :
1. I don't recognize these names! Sorry! 2. Coldplay. Oasis is cool too though. 3. Lemonade 4.The Sun 5. Coronation Street 6. Italy 7. Cell 8. Cheese and Onion 9. Fb 10. Both! It depends on who is kissing or hugging! Overall...hug.
Answer 4 :
1) Who?! 2) Coldplay. 3) Coke. 4) I dunno. 5) Coronation Street (Uh...). 6) Spain. 7) Laptop/Computer. 8) Cheese and Onion. 9) Facebook. 10) Both!
Answer 5 :
1) Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi? Cristiano Ronaldo 2) Oasis or Coldplay? Oasis 3) Lemonade or Coke? Coke 4) The Sun newspaper or The Telegraph newspaper? The Sun 5) EastEnders or Coronation Street? None 6) To visit - Italy or Spain? Spain 7) Your mobile phone or your laptop/computer? Both :) 8) Prawn Cocktail or Cheese and Onion flavour crisps? Prawn cocktail 9) Bebo or Facebook? None 10) Kiss or hug? Both
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1) Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi? 2) Oasis or Coldplay? 3) Lemonade or Coke? 4) The Sun newspaper or The Telegraph newspaper? 5) EastEnders or Coronation Street? 6) To visit - Italy or Spain? 7) Your mobile phone or your laptop/computer? 8) Prawn Cocktail flavour crisps or Cheese and Onion flavour crisps? 9) Bebo or Facebook? 10) Kiss or hug?
Polls & Surveys - 5 Answers
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Answer 1 :
none coldplay lemon second none spain laptop first none hug
Answer 2 :
1) Who and who? 2) Coldplay 3) Lemonade 4) Neither, I live in Australia 5) Ditto 6) Italy 7) I don't have either 8) Cheese and Onion 9) What? 10) Hugs are safer.
Answer 3 :
1. I don't recognize these names! Sorry! 2. Coldplay. Oasis is cool too though. 3. Lemonade 4.The Sun 5. Coronation Street 6. Italy 7. Cell 8. Cheese and Onion 9. Fb 10. Both! It depends on who is kissing or hugging! Overall...hug.
Answer 4 :
1) Who?! 2) Coldplay. 3) Coke. 4) I dunno. 5) Coronation Street (Uh...). 6) Spain. 7) Laptop/Computer. 8) Cheese and Onion. 9) Facebook. 10) Both!
Answer 5 :
1) Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi? Cristiano Ronaldo 2) Oasis or Coldplay? Oasis 3) Lemonade or Coke? Coke 4) The Sun newspaper or The Telegraph newspaper? The Sun 5) EastEnders or Coronation Street? None 6) To visit - Italy or Spain? Spain 7) Your mobile phone or your laptop/computer? Both :) 8) Prawn Cocktail or Cheese and Onion flavour crisps? Prawn cocktail 9) Bebo or Facebook? None 10) Kiss or hug? Both
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Monday, May 7, 2012
Need a good budget laptop
Need a good budget laptop.?
I need a laptop, as I will be doing some international flying to Spain this summer, and my phone will surely die before the ~12 hours are up. Because of the time constraints, and me not having a job(I'm 16), I need a good laptop(specs below) for NO MORE than $500 USD. Here's the minimum specs I would like: 2.0GHz CPU 2GB DDR3 RAM 250GB HDD ~15.6"(Size is not important, as long as it's not an 11", or a netbook-14" minimum) DVD Drive Windows 7(32 or 64-bit, I don't really care which one) Built-in LAN and WLAN 4-hour battery life I will be doing some mild gaming(Garry's Mod, Half-Life, Halo CE, etc.) But no serious "ZOMG I'M GOING TO HACK THE PENTAGON WHILE PLAYING WoW!!!!!@@!@!#!@#!@#LOLZ", so an 11" netbook just won't do... I was going to get this: http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16834214188 But when I picked it out, they had it $150 off, making a $580 laptop just $430! Now that sale ended, and it's $530, which that, plus a carrying bag, accessories, shipping, etc. brings the price to $598.38-About $100 out of my reach. I think I settled on this refurbished laptop. Thank's to everyone who offered help! http://www.bestbuy.com/site/HP+-+Factory-Refurbished+Laptop+/+AMD+Athlon%26%23153%3B+II+Processor+/+15.6%22+Display+/+3GB+Memory+/+320GB+Hard+Drive+-+Charcoal/2077071.p?skuId=2077071&productCategoryId=pcmcat219300050014&id=1218308261558
Laptops & Notebooks - 3 Answers
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Answer 1 :
i don't know if you are going to find something to run Halo on, you sort of need a graphics card for that. i just got a Toshiba with somewhat better specs than you want for just over $600. Best Buy was running an 18 months no interest deal, so it is easy to manage.
Answer 2 :
I would go for a Gateway. They make excellent laptops and netbooks for a good price. I bought a laptop from them last year and its been working great and fast like it was new. Every feature you mentioned they have in their laptops. You shloud try them out at BestBuy. http://www.gateway.com/programs/nvseries/index.php?cmpid=topnav_computers
Answer 3 :
compaq laptop
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I need a laptop, as I will be doing some international flying to Spain this summer, and my phone will surely die before the ~12 hours are up. Because of the time constraints, and me not having a job(I'm 16), I need a good laptop(specs below) for NO MORE than $500 USD. Here's the minimum specs I would like: 2.0GHz CPU 2GB DDR3 RAM 250GB HDD ~15.6"(Size is not important, as long as it's not an 11", or a netbook-14" minimum) DVD Drive Windows 7(32 or 64-bit, I don't really care which one) Built-in LAN and WLAN 4-hour battery life I will be doing some mild gaming(Garry's Mod, Half-Life, Halo CE, etc.) But no serious "ZOMG I'M GOING TO HACK THE PENTAGON WHILE PLAYING WoW!!!!!@@!@!#!@#!@#LOLZ", so an 11" netbook just won't do... I was going to get this: http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16834214188 But when I picked it out, they had it $150 off, making a $580 laptop just $430! Now that sale ended, and it's $530, which that, plus a carrying bag, accessories, shipping, etc. brings the price to $598.38-About $100 out of my reach. I think I settled on this refurbished laptop. Thank's to everyone who offered help! http://www.bestbuy.com/site/HP+-+Factory-Refurbished+Laptop+/+AMD+Athlon%26%23153%3B+II+Processor+/+15.6%22+Display+/+3GB+Memory+/+320GB+Hard+Drive+-+Charcoal/2077071.p?skuId=2077071&productCategoryId=pcmcat219300050014&id=1218308261558
Laptops & Notebooks - 3 Answers
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Answer 1 :
i don't know if you are going to find something to run Halo on, you sort of need a graphics card for that. i just got a Toshiba with somewhat better specs than you want for just over $600. Best Buy was running an 18 months no interest deal, so it is easy to manage.
Answer 2 :
I would go for a Gateway. They make excellent laptops and netbooks for a good price. I bought a laptop from them last year and its been working great and fast like it was new. Every feature you mentioned they have in their laptops. You shloud try them out at BestBuy. http://www.gateway.com/programs/nvseries/index.php?cmpid=topnav_computers
Answer 3 :
compaq laptop
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