Life isnt going your way, but your best friend's life is perfect? How do you cope with this, and become happy?
Ive been having ALOT of family issues(mom cant walk well)specificly health issues. My dad is the only one who makes money.. im the youngest in my family (16). My sister(20) just went back to college) and im the only healthy one in the family.and the only one that doesnt have a type diabetes.my family and i have been so unfortunete for the last almost 9 years. financialy and stuff like that. My best friend usualy gets what he wants. He got a 600 doller bed, thats better then some adults. He randomly gets a 200 dollar laptop. He gets to go to spain, or italy, or any other amazing country. While, ive never ever been out of the country. He JUST. got a credit card, because his parents are tired of giving him cash every weekend. he can only use it, with permision. but still. ITS A CREDIT CARD!. He is about to get his liscences in 4 weeks. Even though im 7 months older then him. were both 16. Reason why i dont have one by now. is cause of my parents, wont let me drive. cause of grades. The only issue, hes had in the family, is his mom with cancer. Which is big. I know this will sound mean, but cancer is very common and treatable, but what my mom has is just as bad as cancer. its SPS. They have tons of money to burn. and they buy everything online. they got everything, I want my family to have. cash, nice cars, a nice house, they dont have to worry about money. and there happy most of the time. My question is. How do I keep myself from getting to upset about this? Im not mad or anything right now. Im totally happy right now :) but I get ticked off, everytime I herd him about his driving. Ive only driven for 2 hours. since august. while, hes all done with test. and about to get liscense. And im always jealous, seeing a 50 inch tv, with fancy verizon fios( i have basic cable)no hd tv. I know this might sound riddiculus. but where I live. (Arlington Virginia) its really hard to be thankfull for what you have. because there are so many kids, my age, that have ALOT of nice things. i mean look up arlington. Were close to the top of the list, on being rich. I want to be happy with what I have. the only thing, i got, that he doesnt have. is a gf. What are some ways, for me to cope with my jealously? What can I do. to make myself happier, and more thankful for what I have? I do help out with the homeless already.
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Answer 1 :
If you and your friend are best friends then this jealousy factor should factor should not come in your mind. Just try to be happy in your friend's happiness.
Answer 2 :
Well I can't say I grew up quiet as unfortunate as you but I never got the coolest stuff when I was your age and I too had what I would call spoiled friends that just seemed to get everything they wanted. This is what I think 1. Step back and look at where your at. There is always someone less fortunate, think about it. There are some kids that have divorced parents or don't even know there parents. Step even further back. There are some places in the world where people die of starvation, diseases, and god knows what else. Your fortunate to be born here. I know its something you may have herd before but really its true, when it comes down to it, you could have easily been put anywhere. 2. Look at what you really have. your friends and family. Everything else is just "things". I am sure your parents love you and you love them. If you disagree now it is likely you will realize it down the road. I hated my parents when I was your age. They wouldn't let me do anything it seemed. But everything they did I realize now was there method of teaching me discipline which sounds like crap now but your nearing an age where everything changes. Have fun with what you have right now. Enjoy going to school, hanging out with friends, spending time with your gf, helping the homeless, doing what you do because your going to miss some of those things in the coming years. 3. Your almost old enough to drive and get a job. It may take a while to get your parents to let you drive but it will happen. Trust me it will. Just try harder in school and keep nagging a little. I mean theres nothing else you can do. 4. Your learning something by not having all those nice things. Your going to have to go out and get those things you want, your not going to have things handed to you, and that is the real world for mostly everyone. There is no better satisfaction of being able to say I have this because I earned it. Same thing with the car. Its all part of a lesson. You want something, earn it. Which gives you an advantage in the long run. You will see. Don't be jealous or hate your friend, different lives, different strokes
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